Practice the pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, think.
Think hard. About the hurdles in your relationship. It’s not smooth. None is.
All relationships experience hard times. But, an ideal, real relationship sustains those hard times. How? Because that relationship is eternalized.
There are many things people frequently ignore. It doesn’t seem that important. But, astonishingly they create the concrete base of the bridge that connects you and your partner.
Trust is an important pillar in any relationship. Without this, a relationship can never stand upright. But not being honest can never help you built that trust. Being nice is necessary. But carrying out everything with honesty is far more essential and genuine.
If you are not honest, there are quite good chances that your partner too is not that honest to you. As a result, trust is lacking in your relationship and this can back-fire you without any warning. It’s better to improve yourself and be true to the person you love.
Your Relationship has strings of compromise and sacrifice tied to it. They are inseparable. If you cannot handle this, it’s better to stay alone. Stepping into any relationship requires ample amount of compromise and sacrifice; and that two from each partner.
Now, these sacrifices will strengthen your relationship and serve as the symbol of ideal understanding.
Arguments and discussions in a relationship act as fresh air to your relationship. You might suffocate yourself if you start avoiding them. Once in a while, hard talks are good for you. It’s an opportunity to let out what might hinder the trust and comforts in your relationship.
There’s nothing to brag about never fighting with your partner. It’s a sign that your relationship is not transparent. One of you is definitely holding something in and it might burst out once overloaded.
You love your partner. That’s great. You can’t see them suffer. That’s more than great. But, what’s going on in their lives is not in your control. Yes, of course, you need to be there for them throughout the hardships. But, you definitely don’t have the super powers that can either reunite their parents or sway away all their insecurities.
You just can’t. So, stop storing an unnecessary guilt inside about not being able to fix your partner. There is, seriously, no need for getting frustrated and agitate their struggles. You can be responsible for converting o your relationship into unhappy and unhealthy.
There must have been certain past events that have made your partner what they actually are. Obviously, they were not that same person from the very start.
Just like you yourself must have gone through some circumstance that made you evolve into a person you are today, similarly, your partner is also a product of the past events. Maybe their family isn’t that expressive, that’s why they might feel uncomfortable in sharing their feelings.
Whatever it is, please stay conscious of this, understand them and appreciate them. They might be the best form of themselves.
If you want something, need something, just TELL. There is no point in carrying some expectations without even hinting about it to your partner. Make your relationship healthy and transparent. Just ask what you need.
There are already tons of complications. Why do you want to add more to the list?
Accept their interests and nature. They might not match with yours but you are altogether a different person. In fact, varieties add colors to your relationship or else, it will become mundane. Accept them. They have accepted you. After all, it’s about having the RIGHT person and not the PERFECT person. Because, no one is perfect, not even you.
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